Studies show we spend up to 70% of our mental energy focusing on things we can’t control, which affects our relationships, stress levels and health. But what if there were two simple words that could help us all break free?

Today’s returning guest is Mel Robbins. Mel is a former lawyer and someone who has now become a sought-after expert in life improvement, mindset, and behaviour change. The occasion for her second appearance on my podcast is the launch of her latest book, #1 New York Times best-seller The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

• The ‘Let Them Theory’ mindset tool – understand the two simple but profound parts: “Let them” for accepting what you can’t control, and “Let me” for focusing on what you can
• The 5 questions that Mel thinks we should be asking ourselves
• The truth about failure – discover why the fear of failing isn’t about failure itself, but about others’ opinions
• Breaking free from people-pleasing – learn why we struggle to ask for what we need and how to start prioritising ourselves
• Emotional maturity – understand why adults often behave like “8-year-olds in big bodies” when emotional, and how to develop greater emotional intelligence
• The health-stress connection – explore how being triggered by others’ actions leads to unhealthy coping mechanisms, and how to break free from this cycle
• Relationship wisdom – discover why criticism and disappointment are normal, and how accepting people as they are improves relationships

Over the past few years, Mel has amassed an incredible 25 million followers online because of her unique ability to connect with others.  She is passionate, articulate and very relatable – and this conversation is full of practical tools to help you transform your relationships, lower your stress, increase your energy and feel more in control of life.

Watch the video version of this interview – click below.